Be Congruent
We were just talking today about first impressions when meeting people. Sometimes I get an instant "dislike" to someone upon meeting, even though they have never done or said anything bad to me. The older I get, the more I will usually go with my gut instincts and not engage the person any deeper if possible. One of the reasons that was brought up is that people who are not congruent with their words, thoughts, and actions are usually the ones that "turn me off" You know these people, too. They are the ones with all the advice-yet their lives are in shambles, the "preachy" ones that have their closets full of skeletons. I've been accused of "not having a filter" or "being too transparent" at times... but not usually about my stance on things. I'm not confrontational...but I'm not above turning around and wailing away from someone I can't stomach. Anyway, the purpose of this rambling post if to encourage you to drop the facade, if you have one-and be more yourself.